Tuesday, August 11, 2015

Maybe He isn't the Inconsiderate One

I had a friend years ago who was single in a small town. I’d say there were few options for her, but the reality is it was technically a small city, not a town, and men far outnumbered women in this growing semi-oil, mostly air force city. That’s neither here nor there. Sometimes a person has to find their mate in obscure out of the way places…like me meeting my husband who lived in another country, while I lived in a large capital city. Any ways, my friend, she’s single…still I think too. (We haven’t been in contact for a while.) Single and giving online dating sites a try she finds what sounds like a great prospect. The catch? He lives a few hours away in a much bigger city.

This guy who I never meet and I don’t think she met in person either has a life in this big city and a good one at that. He is not too keen on the idea of leaving that life or that city. My friend, who took a huge leap moving to her smaller city to start her career and had been there for a few years, planted strong roots in her community, was also not keen on changing her life or location. She expressed her views to me in the context of the “big city guy” being a jerk for expecting her…or any woman he might develop a relationship with to move to his location because he didn’t want to change his own life.

If she had couched it a little differently, acknowledging her very similar position I might have responded a little less aggressively. But no! She was annoyed and spouting the negative ideas that make feminists appear hypocritical. Me…an anti-feminist with liberal tendencies…LOL…got seriously annoyed with her in return and explained that she has no right to expect him to have a different opinion. He also has roots in his community. Maybe my annoyance had more to do with personal experience being ready to leave not just a small city, but a country and a very good career to be with someone I loved, or watching the love affair my parents had with each other during their treks about the world…mom “following” dad. Bias or no, this chick and others like her have to recognize their hypocrisy.

Also…and this is the best part…for me because it’s funny…probably not for the ladies in question…if a guy is really into you he will consider changing his life for you and vice versa. That means my friend’s prospect was not much of a prospect, and neither was she in this instance.

I don’t remember her reaction to my reaction…I didn’t really care either. I still don’t. I did pick up my life and change it for a man. I risked giving my career up and needing to start all over for him. I will literally have to do this over and over because my husband’s work moves us constantly.  I don’t care though. He was willing to change his life for me and he did, in a manner. I’ve adapted. I haven’t lost my career. In fact, I’ve actually found a way to make it better. I hope my friend finds someone she is willing to pick up her life for, even if she doesn’t actually have to, and I hope he feels the same way for her.

Thursday, August 8, 2013

Gravlax Kim Bap


GLUTEN FREE/ PESCETARIAN/DAIRY FREE/PALEO

An East meets North recipe this is one of the must haves when I make gravlax. Taking one of our favorite Korean dishes along with a favorite Swedish dish we have created a monster. J

Traditional Kim Bab has egg and radish along with the other ingredients listed below. I’ve replaced these with gravlax since it has it’s own tangy/sweet taste the egg and radish provide in the original.

Monday, August 5, 2013

Gravad Lax/Gravlax/Marinated Salmon


GLUTEN FREE/ PESCETARIAN/DAIRY FREE/PALEO

Love my Swedish background, mostly for Ikea, but also for the food. J One of my favorite dishes is gravlax, a type of marinated salmon, served raw. Thankfully Ikea had a cookbook of Swedish recipes, including gravlax.

It is not too complicated, but does require planning ahead, since it needs to marinate for at least 3 days. Thankfully we have fridges to marinate our salmon in. The original recipe used the cool of the earth to keep the fish until it was ready.

Friday, August 2, 2013

Had I Known...Another List for Brides to Be


Everyone says they would do it differently, and I'm one of those people. I wish I knew about Pinterest and Etsy before I got married. I wish I knew where I might get disappointed in the planning process. When considering all of these "wishes" and "wishes" I've heard from other brides I came up with this list. These are not all points from my own wedding, but from what I’ve seen, heard and experienced at several weddings, including my own.

Friday, July 26, 2013

Real Hash Browns


GLUTEN FREE/VEGETARIAN/VEGAN/DAIRY FREE

Has browns are my favorite breakfast item. Whenever I have breakfast out it must be included in my dish or I’ll order it as a side. While some restaurants like to pass off chunks of fried potato as hash browns, there is nothing like grated potato hash.

Monday, July 1, 2013

Ddduk Boki


CAN BE GLUTEN FREE/CAN BE VEGAN/VEGETARIAN/PESCETARIAN

When I first started dating my husband, an American of Korean decent, I spent a lot of time researching and trying Korean recipes. My goal was to make it so he never said he’s had better,although any sane man would never say something like that to his wife any way. J

Dduk Boki is probably my most favorite of the Korean dishes, mostly for the rice cakes. As with most dishes one absolutely loves the recipes I found always seemed so complicated. Finally I just decided to cut some corners and hope for the best. The result? Corner cutting has its benefits.

Thursday, June 27, 2013

Banana Oatmeal Pancakes


GLUTEN FREE/DAIRY FREE/VEGETARIAN

Another Pinterest find with a couple of modifications. I kept the egg yolks and added in some almond milk to make the batter a little thinner. I think I prefer this to the banana egg pancakes I posted previously.

Taste great with maple syrup.